Today I got an IM from Jeff asking me if I knew the best way to address a formal wedding invitation to a married lesbian couple. Each woman has a separate surname. There seemed to be multiple courses of action, all of which had valid reasoning. It seemed best to solicit some additional feedback from friends, colleagues and opinionated strangers on Twitter.
One nuance is that the bride to be had thought of not including any honorific at all, but she didn’t want them to feel that she didn’t respect their marriage in some way.
Here’s how the responses broke out:
While the etiquette experts had their point of view, you can see that there are a variety of opinions from regular folks that likely revolve around our own experiences. A couple folks suggested that the bride should know what her friends would prefer, but weddings make everyone a little overly cautious :) To that end, two people suggested the best thing to do is call and ask the couple. That’s probably best in the end but you would probably be okay with one of these other routes suggested.
Thanks to everyone for taking the time to answer and ponder through this!